How to stop a naughty child without emotional or mental trauma.
Being with your baby can sometimes feel like being in a minefield. Everything is fine in a minute, you just hang out and look at Blippie and then the slightest change happens and he explodes like a bomb. Sometimes moms don't even know what happened to cause a defiant, epic hysteria, but it happened, and mom will do anything to stop it. Unfortunately, emotions run high when the hysteria continues, and Mom can (understandably) lose her temper and scream and say things she regrets later. There has to be a better way.
The problem is that babies seem to act on purpose. They know they don't have to do anything, but they do anyway, and Mom needs to redirect this energy and behavior in a positive, loving way. According to Nature and Prosperity, it is important to understand how a three-year-old's brain works in order to understand challenging behavior.
Three-year-olds are between knowing what is wrong and not knowing what is wrong. Some experts call this "prelogical"; they can be in a perfectly logical and irrational state of thought at the same time. Remember this the next time you think your baby is struggling because what's going on in her immature, evolving consciousness is even worse.
With that in mind, there are other things moms can do to deal with this behavior, and it doesn't include yelling. According to parents, the first thing a mother wants to do is the exact opposite of screaming, a mother has to be calm. It can be very difficult for mom, but the reason why it is so important is because you are her guide when it comes to how people should behave. It is much easier for them to calm down when they see that you are calm too.
Sometimes, when we are upset or don't want to do something, we just need some time to calm down. As adults, we know that normal behavior is to go into a quiet room and take a deep breath. The baby doesn't have this option yet, so sometimes her "calm" can be hysterical. It may be a good idea to make sure they're in a safe space and let them work through their anger. You can let them know you're close to them, and you can talk to them when they calm down.
If you want to stop the challenging behavior before it starts, it may be time to change the way you tell your child. According to Quick and Dirty Tips, this is an effective way to encourage them to do what you want them to do. If you have a walk planned at the park, but want them to put their toys away first, don't pose a threat to your request. Instead of saying "we're not going to the park until you clean it up," try saying "after you finish cleaning up your toys, let's go play in the park. Think of it as a reward and keep it positive.
There are many parents who think there is danger in the word "no" and they may be right. If you think about the day from the baby's point of view, all they hear all day is the word "no". It can be a trigger for them, and they'll get hysterical as soon as they hear the one syllable that comes out of your mouth.
Try to avoid using that word unless it's a serious situation. If your child wants to do something that isn't safe, or you don't want her to do it, try to give her a reason why you don't want her to do it, but always offer her an alternative activity. Sometimes it can be hard, but there is a way to work with the baby to avoid a sudden breakup.